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Resources for Parents

Below are a collection of articles to help guide parents on youth soccer.  Please take time to read the articles so that you will be better informed on the best way to handle situations with your children.

Pocket Soccer Guide for Parents: This is a great two page guide on how the make soccer a great experience for your child.  Everyone should read this guide

Pushing Too Hard Too Young:  Intense training schedules. Pressure to win and be the best. Painful injuries. Given all these factors, it’s not surprising that some athletes simply burn out on their sport.

Top 10 Ways Parents & Coaches Contribute to Burnout:  Research shows that approximately 70 percent of all kids who participate in youth sports will drop out by the age of 13. Here are my top 10 ways that parents and coaches contribute to this statistic:

Soccer And The Over Eager Parent: The following conversation was overheard in the kitchen between a son and his mother......

Motivation is more than a question of winning and losing:  I once played soccer with a kid called Mark. Mark was a very successful youth soccer player who was always one of the better players in any team he played for. Indeed, Mark represented the National schoolboy U15 team. About one year later, however, Mark dropped out of soccer.

Parent's Guide Introduction to Youth Soccer:  US Youth Soccer provides a healthy activity through its recreational and small sided games programs. These programs emphasize FUN, and de-emphasize winning at all costs. Every child is guaranteed playing time and the game is taught in a fun and enjoyable atmosphere.

The Six Things Parents Should Say to Their Player:

A lot of soccer parents with good intentions give a 30 minute lecture, covering all the players supposed deficiencies and giving playing advice, in the car on the way to each match. The kids arrive far off their optimal mental state, and dreading the critique they are likely to hear, whether they want it or not, on the way home. Kids who are massaged in this way tend not to play badly, they just tend to not play, possibly to avoid making mistakes.

The easiest way to detect this problem is just to ask the player if it is a problem. Kids are more than willing to share this grief. The easiest way to correct this problem is to speak to the parents, as a group, about your expectations, and to cover this as a routine problem. Many of the parents will recognize themselves if you can present this problem with humor and illustrate the importance of the kids having fun and arriving in a good state of mind.

For best results, parents should memorize and use the following:

Before the Match

I love you.....Good luck.....Have fun.

After the Match

I love you.....It was great to see you play.....What would you like to eat?